Advice dating someone going through divorce
This can often result in them being much more open minded and adaptable themselves with a deeper understanding that every person’s situation is unique and not necessarily a reflection of their values or beliefs – a divorcee may still believe in the sanctity of marriage but their ex didn’t. Communication – good communication skills are at the heart of any lasting healthy relationship.
Someone who has been married and shared their life with someone, will probably have developed more emotional intelligence and good communication skills than someone who has never had that experience. Once bitten – for some divorcees the experience was so painful that they resolve to never make the same mistake again and therefore will not consider remarrying.
We got past that and things were still good, one night he stopped in with a friend, we went out and had a few drinks, that night we ended the night with a very little peck of a kiss.
The next day he kept say "friends" this and that, several times.
I think you are both right and I have been keeping my distance.
We started getting close before and he needed space for a while this time he was a little more ready, now he needs time again. @Pochacco, I just dealt with the same issue yesterday and feel like my life has been turned upside down.
I don't think it has a lot to do with him wanting her back at all but more to do with the fact that he is afraid of another bad relationship. He has come a long way and in time who knows..is a great person and I am in no rush, I am not 100% ready either. All he can say is he loves me and he is sorry that he is afraid to commit again. @Shells: I know you posted this 3 years ago but I am really interested in knowing how have you been doing. I was with a man for 10 months and stood by him while he went through his divorce.
Thought he needs the space and time to deal with his divorce. 2 young boys, plus the divorce can be very hard to manage but I had never complained once.Although someone who is divorced is as single as someone who has been widowed or never married, there are certain differences which will make their situation unique and could pose challenges in the development of something new.Naturally these will not apply to everyone who is divorced – there will be differences depending on when the divorce happened; whether it was amicable and whether there are children involved.It is unlikely that someone who has been through this will want to make the same mistake again so they are more likely to take their time getting to know you. Commitment – having already made a commitment a divorcee will often be much clearer about the realities of that decision and the problems that can arise.Although they may be slower to make the commitment, they are more likely to stick with it once they do rather than go through the pain of another separation. Experience – when someone has been through the pain, loss and separation that divorce can entail, it can make them more rounded as a person.