Christian dating dos and donts
So here is a list describing 5 boundary categories to consider in Christian dating relationships. Boundaries Around Your Emotional Intimacy Are Crucial For Christian Dating As a Christian, you are called to protect your own heart, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs , NIV).While this is a clear command in Scripture, how you guard your heart in dating is less clear.Proverbs says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.” If this doesn’t capture the tension in a Christian dating relationship I don’t know what does.It brings immense joy when two people date and then have their “desire fulfilled” if they decide they want to spend the rest of their lives together.Therefore you should put boundaries around your expectations and hopes in your Christian dating relationship. I’m not saying you need to be hopeless or never have expectations. If you are closed off and don’t have hope, you are dooming the whole experience from the start. Sexual boundaries are what most people think of first because it’s probably the easiest temptation to fall into. Guard what you say if you want to guard your heart. Not everyone feels the same way about these three words as I do.
Dating by definition and design is somewhere in between friendship and marriage, therefore Christian guys and girls are always trying to navigate the confusion which is always produced by romance without commitment.
All I can guarantee you is that their lists would look nothing alike.
So rather than give you a concrete Christian dating boundaries list of do’s and don’ts like: no kissing, no laying on the couch together, no hanging out after midnight, etcetera – what I think would be more helpful is to create a list of “boundary categories” that each individual Christian guy and girl should define for themselves with the help of their trusted circle of influence and as they seek to honor Christ and obey his word.
With each increase in emotional attachment you should add commitment.
If you do this, you will get married fairly quickly. And when you can guard your heart no longer, it’s time to get married so you don’t need to guard your heart towards this person anymore as you once did in the dating relationship. In Christian Dating, You Should Have Boundaries Around Talking About Your Futures Together Just like your emotions, planning for the future together in your Christian dating experience should coincide with increased levels of commitment.